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The 5R Rewiring Loop
Five steps for catching a reactive pattern while it’s happening, instead of explaining it away afterward. I didn’t build this from research first. I built it during a year I couldn’t use my own dominant hand after nerve surgery, when I had to talk myself through every reaction out loud because I couldn’t write any of it down. It’s the process I still use on myself.
The five steps
What’s actually in it
1. Regulate
Bring your body back online before you try to think your way out of a reaction.
2. Reflect
Separate what actually happened from what you made it mean.
3. Reframe
Find the old belief running underneath the reaction, replace it with what's true now.
4. Repeat
This is a rep you're building, not a one-time insight.
5. Relate
Take what changed back to the actual person the reaction affected.
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